We’ve all done it. Referred to a mom that seems to be able to juggle a million things while making it look easy as a ‘supermom’. Kickass career, super clean meals on the table every night, crushing 5am workouts before most people have had their morning coffee, and nothing but engaging activities for their kids on weekends while the rest of us have worn the same sweatpants for two days straight.
But here’s why I think the term sucks:
- It creates a weird hierarchy in motherhood where you have to somehow strive for perfection to be a ‘supermom’
- It implies that we somehow can and should be able to do it all on our own
I’m the first to admit I can’t do it all on my own. If I’m able to get healthy meals on the table or make it to the gym a few times a week it’s because I have a husband who knows how important these things are to me and takes over the baby duties. If I’m crushing it at work it means someone else is watching my child. If I’m doing something really cool with my baby it’s probably because I got cabin fever from doing absolutely nothing for a week straight.
Look, I’m sure there are some moms out there who probably CAN do it all because who needs sleep or self care but I’m willing to bet that a large majority of moms who juggle it all probably don’t have much of a choice and are secretly burning out OR behind closed doors there is something that is really suffering – whether it’s their relationship, friendships or sanity.
We need to realize that being a mom in itself implies we have crazy superpowers and we shouldn’t aspire to be perfect or do it all on our own. We are ALL kicking ass in our own way and it looks different for everyone.
Also – has anyone ever even HEARD of the term ‘superdad’? No. Because this insane expectation to do it all only exists for women.
So I’m proposing we start a new trend. One where we give ourselves a little more credit and agree that the term ‘mom’ is enough.